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| posted on 12.19.2008 at 09:19 PM
Topics of the Day
Live life to death...
Who in here is ready for death? Not saying that you want to die, but if it were to happen, do you feel that you have done enough in life to warrant a
positive afterlife experience?
Of course my after life is different from yours, but no matter what you believe, most post death beliefs revolve around what we do well we are
To say “I’m ready for death,” signals three things. To me, anyway. One, you know there’s an expiration date coming up fairly soon with your name
written in big, bold letters all across it, and there’s nothing you can do to change your fate.
Two, you’re at the end of your life. You’ve lived it the best way you knew how, and played the cards you were dealt. You’ve accepted there were things
you could’ve changed, and have also accepted the fact that some things you just couldn’t.
Last…..you’ve thrown in the towel. Completely given up. Might as well call it suicide for cowards.
We really aren’t supposed to know when we’re going to die, so we can’t prepare for it. It’s the beauty of life. The reward is living itself, and
sometimes it doesn’t all hinge on well we perform.
Why prepare yourself for unknown chapters you don’t have a hand in, when you are the captain charting your own course right now?
Maybe there really is a heaven with million dollar questions to open those pearly gates, and maybe there is a hell fiery hot, burning with eternal
All I know is that no one living has ever came back and gave a firsthand account of either one.
Prepare to live. Doing that should be of the utmost importance, urgency, and final resignation. Resign yourself to L-I-F-E. Something you know how to
do, and don’t mind creating. Life isn’t something that’s limited to either this or that. It comes in many different forms, each with its own needs,
joys, pains, beauty and rewards.
Can you say that about death?
I'll never be prepared to die. Especially when I know it won't be on my own terms.
What perfumes/body washes are you using?
Too many to count.
In O's new issue they advertised Tokyo Milk, so I'll be trying these over the next two months:
1. I Want Candy
2. Honey and the Moon
3. Let Them Eat Cake
4. Song in D Minor
5. French Kiss
6. Ex Libris Parfum
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| posted on 12.20.2008 at 06:46 PM
The issue of Same-Sex Marriage
Dateline NBC had a very good show last night, feat. Rick Warren.
First I have to do a mini rant about Ann Curry. I simply do not like her as a t.v. journalist. Her, Al, and Meredith were the reasons I had to switch
to GMA. I honestly believe that when you are interviewing somebody, your focus should be on how to deliver this bit of news, however controversial, in
an unbiased fashion. No matter what, the viewer isn’t supposed to know your personal views. Of course, the downside is that people think you’re either
for or against whatever tide has temporarily swept in. But still, it’s annoying and distracting. And she has this way she does her neck, like she’s
really listening, looking like a little boy.!!!!! U-G-H…..Everybody has an agenda. I just pray that she jump into Chris Hansen’s shoes one day for To
Catch a Predator.
Now, on to the main focus of last night’s interview, same sex marriage. If it happens, it happens. The one thing I sincerely wish for life as we know
it, is to have everybody overdose on whatever it is they desire. We, as humans, have yet to know when to say when, when it matters the most. We are
always pushing for more, bigger, better, faster, smaller, etc.
I’m not for redefining marriage. If you ask me to vote for it, I will happily do so against it every time. I have no problem with gays, lesbians, the
bisexual or transgendered. I have a couple closet ones in my family. It’s not about that.
It’s about challenging the authority and actual existence of God himself. There are too many people fashioning gods for themselves, that paints the
Most High as a totally permissible figure, who accepts any and everything. And that simply isn’t true.
If He didn’t have set standards there would be no battle between good and evil. We wouldn’t know the difference. We wouldn’t know about boundaries,
because the line that originated with him would’ve never been drawn.
But, that’s just how everybody wants it. To have a god that draws his lines in the mud, so they can come in and wash them away at will. And woe to
anybody who dares to use the Bible as a tool for defense.
I don’t understand why so many people are against using Scripture to uphold moral ground. Maybe because it’s the one thing that leaves no room for
confusion. We can twist, bend, shape, and distort it all until we die. But, the one thing we always fall away from, yet come back to, is a sense of
right and wrong.
We can tolerate and respect a person’s wishes to live as he or she chooses. If you’re gay, no we shouldn’t take matters into our own hands and deny
you employment, housing, health benefits, an education, or even a good time. That’s passing judgment. That’s preventing another person from living and
making a living.
God has laid a moral foundation that we have strayed from far too often, in the spirit of holding a non-judgmental, all inclusive attitude. If we had
stayed in unison with God’s wishes, just think of where all the time, effort, and money spent towards fighting and combating deadly diseases could’ve
Quintessence did a post that was a slam against Christianity. But notice how nobody challenges what a vegetarian decides to put on their plate. Notice
how the word instantly brings to mind the words pure and healthy. It’s the right way to live, if only we had the willpower, right?
And aren’t they the ones who love telling the world what is right and wrong? We are all familiar with organizations like GreenPeace and PETA. We all
know about people pelting those who wear fur, eat KFC, and don’t mind downing triple cheeseburgers with a bucket of fries and a Diet Coke.
And we applaud them. We even give in to their demands. We change. We deny. We pull out the scientific studies that actually change every few years,
but what heck!!! We are saving people from themselves. And it’s all alright. But let a Christian take a “moral” stand, and we instantly wish to tear
them, and the podium from whence they speak, down. And with such fascinating fervor, too.
Look at what the Catholic Church, in all its sinister glory, could’ve avoided if it had not sought to make gods out of men. Think about all the
children that have been stained and forever marked if they had let men respond to their nature in a way that pleased God.
But no. They got caught up in being too literal with the word of God, and we find them representing something other than His original intention for
And I find that is what people are doing with the issue of marriage.
Ann Curry, I applauded you last night:
Ann: God said marriage is supposed to be between a man and woman. Yet King Solomon had over 700 *wives* and *concubines*.
Girl………….you so smart!!!!!!!! Your next piece should investigate if any of them were real BOYS, DAMON!!!!!
So, no matter how one may try to avoid and distort the truth and validity of the Bible, no matter who touched what when, there are still some basic
elements we will never be able to deny, distort, or destroy.
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| posted on 12.20.2008 at 06:55 PM
Topics of the Day
When was the last time you've sat alone and had a good ol' pity party?
What were you fed up/stressed/sad/irritated/annoyed/hurt/pissed about?
Did you cry? How long did it take you to get it together?
I use to. But at the end of all that, I still have to deal with the issue as it is.
I even have a magnet that says, "Honey----put on your big girl panties.....and DEAL with it."
So I do. Every now and then I get really stressed out, or feel put upon, and I want to indulge in the simple act of crying...but I'm a little
vindictive, so I have to find a way over, and I suck that sh*t up real quick.
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| posted on 1.5.2009 at 02:12 PM
Who would CHOOSE to be gay?
Ahhhhh…..I thought that, finally, there would be some conclusive evidence giving new life and legs to the debate of whether homosexuals are, without a
shadow of a doubt, born *that* way. What I get is a story that leaves nothing of substance or support to the question posed.
What to respond to….that is the question. Ok. I feel sorry for the woman this heinous crime was visited upon. Hopefully, this will not break her
spirit, and in time, I do hope she can live a life free from fear, terror and prejudice.
To respond to the question: Who chooses to be gay? Obviously homosexuals. Just like me as a heterosexual chooses to be straight. But, I can play the
Any and all sexual desires are preferences. Some of which are non negotiotiable, especially under “normal” circumstances. Which means, especially here
in America, the right to *choose* any particular lifestyle we so *choose* to carve out for ourselves.
I realize people tend to lean towards the whole “born that way” theory because it shows openness and compassion. But to ask the question about who
would choose to be that way, shows in itself that something is wrong, not right, unnatural, wholly unappealing and/or flawed about the entire
situation. And depending on the angle of the argument, it could any one or all of these.
Why wasn’t the question posed, “Why not choose to be gay?”
Because then you’d have the truth emerge. Which is to say that you’d have heterosexuals simply and honestly saying they don’t *choose* to do that. So
why the semantics and hair splitting with homosexuals?
What I do know, and science has yet to conclusively pinpoint, is that no one is simply born gay.
I knew at 4 yrs. old that I was attracted to males, without even really knowing what it meant. I firmly believe that in all things we are products of
our own separate, unique environments. I believe that in terms of sexuality, if it’s not one thing, it’s a series of events, established “norms,”
curiosity, continued exploration, possible abuse and/or abandonment that lead us to pursue the preference we will later try on or discard, and
Just like how I knew at 4, my cousin knew at about the same age when he found his dad’s stash of porno’s that he liked watching men having sex, and
eventually kept pursuing what turned him on. Same as me, same as everybody else.
To give credence to the argument that one is simply, or even, born this way, you’re going to have to include people we label pedophiles and serial
killers under that same umbrella.
I mean….seriously…….who really chooses to be that way?
Who wants to live a life filled with unnatural, internal struggles and societal pressure to conform with judgment and banishment if we don‘t?
Who’s to say that maybe one day these people won’t try to appeal for more compassion and tolerance the same way this homosexual saga is being played
If we are already born as the people we will recognize in the mirror one day, why is one aspect of our character more acceptable than the other?
The only reason I use the word “unnatural” in reference to homosexuality is because we all know we cannot depend on homosexuals to continue life. They
can nurture and cultivate what’s given, but between two same sex beings life cannot be created.
And for the blowhards who deny the Bible, science has and will continue to tell you, that without *artificial* or secondary intervention, human life
as we know would become extinct without the coming together of man (sperm) and woman (egg).
The story involving the pregnant “man” was huge for the simple fact that it was both unusual, unnatural, and highly inconceivable to see a pregnant
“man” give birth.
But once those layers were peeled back, was it not revealed that “he” was actually a she?
In life there is not one without the other……..it just doesn’t exist.
This is not to paint myself as a bigot, because I’m not. But in the spirit of solidarity and tolerance, it’s easy to “conveniently” forget the simple
truths and facts and just take what someone says at face value because they don’t know how to justify a personal and private choice, while wanting
public acceptance and acknowledgment.
That, above all else, is misleading and inappropriate.
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| posted on 1.5.2009 at 05:00 PM
Muslim family kicked off plane
I have to applaud the passengers for being proactive, because when I first watched the movies about what happened in the air on 9/11, I was blown away
by how these people were so led by fear they wouldn't fight to save their lives.
Now, this begs the question: Why would you, as an Arab American be on an airplane talking about the safest place to sit without considering the nature
and sensitivity of the topic at hand?
That's like a Black man walking into a Korean owned place of business and talking about the best things to steal.
And let's not confuse the issues. It is not a case of:
""I guess it's just a situation of guilt by association," Aziz said. "They see one Muslim talking to another Muslim and they automatically assume
something wrong is going on.""
It was an act of utter stupidity, intentional or not.
The airlines did the right thing in denying you the chance to board again, because other passengers on the next flight would've refused to fly with
you, which would have thrown the airline out of sync trying to accomodate 8-9 people.
To deny that you or members of your family played a hand in how everything went down is...again....misleading and untrue.
I'm pretty sure the airline apologized, but because they wouldn't do what you wanted, because you weren't looking at the bigger picture....it
doesn't make their effots to appease you....in the future....obsolete.
Everybody was inconvenienced and delayed over what turned out to be nothing. But, everybody lived, and is no worse for the wear because of it.
This, of course, brings back to mind th Black lady and the courthouse. nd I must say that I find who Islam appeals to very perplexing and interesting.
Just because I often wonder who exactly is going to be expendable in the end.
What are some new changes or goals you will strive at for 2009?
I think I'm ready to just let it all go. I've been told numerous times to, and now I am. YS#1 used to have a name, but now I can't seem to stop
calling her "that muthaf*cka." I tried to remain indifferent, but now I can't seem to stop fantasizing about what it would feel like to have her
riding under the wheel of my car.
That's bad. But, I really don't care anymore. Maybe one day, years upon years from now, we can come to some kind of understanding, and she'll stop
acting like somebody owes her fake azz something......but right now, I'm through.
And that's the only resolution I can make for this year that I know I'll keep.
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| posted on 1.5.2009 at 10:04 PM
Thrown Out Of Church!
I really don't know why but all I'm imagining is Brad Pitt's
character in Burn After Reading.....tailored to fit, of course. OF COURSE!!!
I can't stop laughing.
Financial And Emotional Stable Men
Me, personally, I just can't deal with those limitations. She's young, she hasn't hit her head hard enough, and believes that by sticking by him,
he'll chose her. She's still harboring that fairytale in her head....
It's about confidence, or lack thereof, and that's why she's settling. Tell her to get out, meet people, expand her horizons, take a trip out the
country, anything. She needs to experience more from life and love. He's already told her it's not happening between them, it's time she listens.
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| posted on 1.6.2009 at 02:23 PM
Is all human life equal ?
Yes. But, I’ve been saying for, golly, ages that perception trumps truth. And it shouldn’t, because, in essence, it’s false and unreliable.
Just like yesterday, I talked about the umbrella we shield homosexuals under, but to do that, IMO, you have to include pedophiles, serial
killers/rapists, etc. But, of course, we are always going to pick and choose.
Nobody argues down the merit of religion when it takes a stand against violence and murder, but DAMMIT, you better not include homosexuals. That’s why mankind is in the position it’s in right now, and the reason
why I say overdose.
Nothing will ever be right coming from the hands of man. Ever. No matter how hard we think we’re trying to put our best foot forward. There are flaws
in everything, and everything we do.
As I so vividly recall one member saying that somebody has to lose, trust me when I say a good majority of us don’t want to be on the losing end. And
this is how we get the sliding scale on what’s more and what’s less.
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| posted on 1.6.2009 at 03:05 PM
John Travolta's Son Killed + Dr. Dre's Son
I truly feel sorry for them. I couldn't imagine ever losing a child....thank God they have enough sense to stay off the internet and let their PR
people handle the media inquiries and well wishes.
I totally understand not wanting people to be all up in your business judging or talking about you, but, for me, if were uncomfotable saying that my
son was less mentally inclined and handicapped than other people, I would've just said it's a personal, private family matter, and that I do not
discuss my children.
But to knowingly give out misinformation about a disease your son quite possibly never had, and certainly didn't die from, is a bit reckless.
Now I know Scientology doesn't recognize the need for psychiatric and certain medicinal intervention and whatnot, but what if they really believed
that their son suffered from Kawasaki disease (I don't see how), and lack of proper intervention played a role in his untimely death?
That's faith, and I can nothing except respect it. Even though they lied, they still brought attention and change to things that need a second
Dr. Dre's son: In both these cases it just goes to show that you cannot protect your kids no matter how many safeguards you have in place, and what
you've tried o teach them about life, and what you hope and think they should already know.
The Curious Case of Benjamin Buttons
Well...I see a lot of conflicting statements here. I believe after Hancock, I just decided to go see for myself and not be swayed one way or another.
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| posted on 1.10.2009 at 12:34 AM
He's saying you are me, and vice versa.
And I say to that, I've made reference to YS#1 over TWO months ago. Jennifer Hudson post. No clue who Choc's referring to.
I must say that you lost cool points for indulging in woman's work.....clearly because you are a man. It's something that has never sat well with
me, as I, obviously, have clear definitions and expectations of what a man's role ought to be....and indulging in idle talk does not make the
And I must say, that for one moment I was sorely tempted to show my pic to lay the rumors to bed and grind the gossip mill to halt......but...for
I mean.....what exactly will happen if I were to say she is me, and I am her? If the answer is not damn thang.........kiss my azz and keep
truckin. I don't see any boycott's happening on her posts.
She's the one down constantly saying don't bash. I prefer to be served straight up, chaser optional.
I wish I could honestly say that I just love ya'll so much I'd be on here as two people, oftentimes at once, but I don't. And that's just being real. I don't have to do that, when I can make
50 million posts a day under ONE name, and keep the drama you apparently love but can't handle to a minimum.
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| posted on 1.10.2009 at 01:28 AM
Race and Romance
I *definitely* have a type. Blame a certain movie and ______. I
know what that type is. I don't feel the need to explain said type. It's a personal preference, and I'm not looking for public approval or
understanding. I would never try to justify my love to people who don't matter, and even to those who do. It's nobody's business, even if my
preference were to border on absolute exclusion..
Topic on death......
....I'll have to post that another time......I'm bored here at the moment.
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| posted on 1.15.2009 at 10:57 PM
Ooooooooooooohhhh LAWD!!!! What's up? For real, for real.....
Kelis Reportedly Expecting First Child...
R&B singer Kelis is expecting her first child with her
hip-hop star husband Nas, according to reports.
The "Milkshake" hit maker, 29, married 35-year-old Nas in
January 2005, and insiders say she is already showing signs
of a baby bump.
A source says, "It's all they are talking about. She is
carrying hip-hop royalty. They are so excited."
A spokesperson for the couple had no comment.
While I am happy for Kelis and Nas, I don't get the hip hop royalty status for the child. Sure we'll all be angling for a view when it
arrives, but what does the father's status have to do with the child. Did anybody label Run DMC's, Grandmaster Flash's, Slick Rick's, Dr. Dre's,
Eazy E's or any other legendary hip hop artist's children as royalty?
I'm just as confused by this as I was when Angie Stone called Jay Z and Beyonce's coupling.............an historic moment.
Does anybody know what the hell is wrong this fool? Is it a cry for help? First a lingering gambling debt, then admitting he was trolling
around prostitutes wanting oral sex.
Well....Jermaine says she's not knocked up. They all lie
anyway......oddly I really don't care if she is or isn't.
A Sisterhood of Workplace Infighting
If there was ever anything that needed to be discussed honestly it is this. When I began working some __ years ago, it was first lesson I observed and
learned that could virtually be applied to just about every scenario involving women........period.
Rash of Black Men Killed by Police Raises Unanswered Questions
Adolph Grimes, Jr., and his wife, Patricia, experienced devastation when they had to flee New Orleans because of Hurricane Katrina. Three years later,
their world has been wrecked again, this time by the tragic death of their 22-year-old son Adolph Grimes, III, when police riddled his body with
numerous shots, 12 in his back, 14 total.
"He was a mild-mannered young man who was trying to enjoy life," says his father, Adolph Grimes, Jr. "He worked every day and always looked out for
anyone in need. "
His parents had moved to Charlotte, North Carolina, after the hurricane, where they still live today while Grimes and his sister moved to Houston.
Although the family had been spread farther from one another, they knew that come New Year's Eve, they would all be together again.
Grimes drove from his home with his girlfriend and their 17-month-old son Christopher and pulled up to where at least 50 family and friends were
celebrating with minutes to spare before midnight. His father immediately embraced him, holding the son and he hadn't seen in almost a year. The
family celebration moved to the French Quarter, where Grimes's grandmother lives. It was almost 3:00 a.m. when he left there to continue to celebrate
elsewhere with his cousin and friends. He was in his car, around the corner from the house, when according to the New Orleans Police Department,
Grimes shot at them first.
"It sounded like fireworks, not like regular gunfire, but like 100 rounds at a time," says his mother, Patricia, who could barely continue the story
of trying to see what had happened to her son. She explains that the police stopped her from leaving the house, while her husband wasn't so easily
"No one was going to stop me from seeing what happened to my child," says Grimes, Jr. The New Orleans Police Department allegedly handcuffed him and
took him to the local police station, all the while never explaining what happened to his son. He came home a few hours later, where Patricia Grimes
says she found out her son was dead from a newscast.
"I had to wait for the news to come on, and once they started talking about the first murder of 2009 [in New Orleans], I could tell it was in this
area and knew it was my son. Until this day, no one from the police department has told me anything," she says.
The family immediately contacted an attorney and the FBI. They admit that Grimes had a registered weapon, but have no knowledge of the police account
that he also had a shotgun and several rounds of ammunition in the vehicle. The FBI has taken an interest in this case and is currently moving forward
with an investigation.
Grimes is just one of several young Black men who have been shot by law enforcement in the last few days. Mass protests have swept the city of Oakland
after the New Year's Eve shooting death of 22-year-old Oscar Grant, after he was shot by a BART transit police officer while he lay face down on the
train platform. His family is now suing the BART Transit system for $25 million dollars. Then there is 23-year-old Robbie Tolan, who is recovering
from gunshot wounds in his liver and lung after being shot on New Year's Eve by a Houston police officer in his own driveway. Police say they were
investigating what they believed was a stolen vehicle. The police department and a spokesperson for the Houston District Attorney's office in the
Tolan case have issued statements about initiating an investigation. However, the Grimes family says they've heard nothing about an investigation
into their son's death.
"We put our child to rest two days ago, but we didn't get the body until seven days after his death," says Grimes, Jr. "I phoned Superintendent
Chief Warren Riley the day it happened and he would not take my call. He has called my attorney, but eight days after my son's death. I don't have
anything to say to him."
The New Orleans Police Department has yet to issue a statement on the case, but has reassigned the nine police officers involved.
Robert Jenkins, attorney for the Grimes family, believes the N.O.P.D. are keeping quiet because of the officers in question.
"One of the officers has a previous shooting like this in his background and is known for his racist and violent tactics," says Jenkins. "We're
still waiting for the FBI to finish their investigation. When the neighbors learned the FBI was on the scene, they came out and gave some very good
information. They were fearful of giving anything to the N.O.P.D."
In the end, a family is displaced yet again and continues to grieve the loss of a son, father, boyfriend, and brother. His parents, relentless in
their quest for answers to what really happened to their child, mostly want the world to know about their son.
"He had love in his heart and he tried to live his life like everyone else," says his father." He was a young man with a family. He was doing what
we all do when they cut his life short. We're not trying to make him a special case. We're just trying to make people see who he really was."
If no one here liked you......
I read......I'm taking it all in.............I thinking of three
separate topics, and I read something 10 days ago.............
This is one topic that has too many subtopics......and requires truth at the end.
I won't answer except to say that no, I, personally, would not stop posting.
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| posted on 1.17.2009 at 09:40 AM
"Ghostniks" and "Alter Egos"
Ok. SHB are you sure you meant Caramelkisses and not Caramel2u?
Seriously, I'm still trying to figure out why my name is always brought up.
But, I must thank you for putting what I have long suspected about people u2uing and telling another member what to say. Though I have never accused
anybody of having an alter ego, I have noted a time or two or three hundred where a person sounded like another member on certain posts.
Tea, as always, is leading the pack on that one, and I can
specifically point to 5 other members, names and all, who have done the same thing.
The behind the scenes gossip from the insecure women and the men who act like women is astounding. No, it's flat out tiring. They can't even keep
the board moving.
Running around lying, and saying if such and such wasn't here we would be drama free and the board would move right along, and we'd all get
BULLSH*T!!!!! BULLSH*T!!!!! BULLSH*T!!!!! BULLSH*T!!!!! BULLSH*T!!!!! BULLSH*T!!!!! BULLSH*T!!!!! BULLSH*T!!!!! BULLSH*T!!!!! BULLSH*T!!!!!
BULLSH*T!!!!! BULLSH*T!!!!! BULLSH*T!!!!! BULLSH*T!!!!! BULLSH*T!!!!! BULLSH*T!!!!!
So, we've had the first thread closed of the year.....and look who's behind it.....again.
I knew it would be a matter of time......so I sat back, waited, and glad it unfolded the way it did...........
Do I feel a little vindication after all the lies flung on me?
Yes. Yes I do.
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| posted on 1.25.2009 at 03:46 PM
I love you...I love you...I love you...I love you...I love you...
VDay Question (Guys Please Respond)
I haven't been on here in a while, but I know that ya'll will help me out. My question:
WHAT SHOULD I GET MY ...FRIEND... FOR VDAY?
Yes the day is in some many ways for us ladies. But what should I get him. Normally I'm good with presents, but I'm up against a couple of delimmas.
1. We aren't together (no need to go all out for a friend)
2. Some would say that we had a big Christmas (or at least he did)
3. I'm not one that like to do the average (dinner, candy, card, s3x )
So are there any "Out of the not so extravagant box" ideas out there?
How about keeping your money in your pocket until he shows and gives you a little something more to go on. Right now, I'm
just not seeing it.
I know as women we tend to go all out, especially in the beginning when we're trying to get the guy to see what we have to offer, but sometimes it's
best to hold back and let him take the reins. Otherwise you'll end up wasting money and feelings up until a week after V Day when he tells you he
just sees you as a friend.
I, personally, wouldn't get him anything. But, if you're so bent on trying to sell the goods, buy him what you want, save the receipts, and get him
a card. When ya'll meet up, see what he has gotten you. If it doesn't match what you got him, just give him the card and take the other mess back so
you can get your money............then spend it on yourself.
Why do so many women want meaningless relationships with powerful or well known men...
What is it about fame, power and success that attracts so many women into meaningless relationships?
What is one of the most stupid purchases you've made in your life?
What made the purchase so stupid?
Was it impulsive or something you'd actually thought through?
I wouldn't say stupid, but I do buy a lot of clothes, and some I haven't worn yet, and it's been almost a year. So.....
When Obama Speaks...
What goes through your mind???
How does it make you feel???
How does it make you think????
I want to bottle that man up, and take him with me everywhere I go. Most times I want to cry, because he is so such an unbelievably personable
character that evokes a sense of righteous goodness unlike 98% of
the people I have ever encountered.
Once you see the good in him, you can't help but want to be a better person yourself. But then, in my case, I'm brought back to reality pretty damn
quick. But just the thought that he came along and inspired millions of people to want something better and demand that their voices, needs and wants
are heard.....makes me pause.
That man can sell me a paper clip for $5000, that's how powerfully eloquent, seductive, and hypnotic he is. He's on the level of 'Can't do no
wrong,' as far as I'm concerned.
Hands Down The Funniest Thing I Have Seen In A Long Time
Well, I definitely can see why. I liked the hat. But, unfortunately, Aretha is known for doing way too much, and going too
big and outlandish with what she wears, so it's going to distract from the fact that, overall, it's a really nice hat.
Anybody else could've worn the hat....no problem. But because of her history......well.....
From What Were They Thinking:
She's world renowned as the Queen of Soul, but Aretha Franklin has never been known for her fashion sense. If she has on a lovely color, such as the
mint green dress pictured right, she's totally popping out of it or the design highlights her weight. Or either the design's all right, but the
color doesn't flatter her. The white dress she's wearing in the other picture isn't flattering at all; she actually looks even bigger! (Unless
you're very thin-and even then...this color usually adds pounds to you).
It looks tacky for a woman of ANY age to wear something in which you're falling out of your dress. Some guys love this, but believe me, overall,
you'll look like a hooker. I would also put Franklin in the Fashion Emergency Hall of Fame; throughout the decades (with a few exceptions), she's
consistently appeared in some of the weirdest creations you've ever seen. Reining in the breasts, wearing darker colors, and more past-the-hip length
jackets (She has very big arms, among other areas) tops, and coatdresses would be a helpful start.
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| posted on 2.5.2009 at 11:58 PM
The Misappropriation of President Obama...
I'm sorry, but when are Black people going to get that change starts with self and then extends out to family and community second and third?
Why am I constantly reading that because we have a Black man in office he should just automatically change the condition of Black people everywhere,
and that the expectation of Blacks treatment towards one another should just cease because of it?
I am so fu*king sick and tired of Black people never addressing the terminal cancer that poisons and kills people within the Black community. I've
yet to witness one conversation without the bullsh*t of focusing on the good and positive. To say something different, that has a bit or a whole lot
truth in it, something's wrong with you. It's like we're only comfortable with scratching the surface, then it becomes somebody else's problem or
an all out expose into the wrongdoings, misshaps, and shortcomings of other people.
No.......the fu*k you haven't. Who would
actually write this huge load of bullsh*t and actually try to sell it? Or should I worry more about those who actually believe it?
No...Only ONE Black man got up there and changed the notion that a Black man can never reside in the *White* House and lead our nation.
And he was a special case all around at that. Truth be told, I don't see it ever happening with any Black male who can say their ancestors were
slaves here in America. Look how long the two fu*ksters Jesse and Al have been around, and they never even scaled the highest peak Obama obliterated
Jesse's azz wanted to cut off Obama's nuts because he told the truth.....and a whole bunch of White people were listening. For some reason, that's
a big no-no with Blacks.
Jesse's azz has nerve enough to want to bring people together, can his daughter come in his house? I don't keep up with the fu*kster myself, but if
she can't, it's a testament to the hypocrisy we keep allowing in, all the while silently setting the stage for how it really goes down behind closed
Front for the cameras, ya'll.
Even on Real Chance of Love The Reunion Show, Ghetto Azz Kiki had nerve to say....after the fact, after her despicable behavior, after seeing how
people really thought of her piss poor portrayal of a Black woman with some sense and class...."like she's not Black herself."
Her ghetto azz, right along with Risky and the rest of those other fools, are the reason why some men, namely Black men, have a problem with Black
women and how they carry themselves.
"Like she's not Black herself." Which goes back to how years ago, I was forever seeing Black people on t.v. (frontin') talking about, "What does
talking Black mean?" Had me screaming, "muthafu*ka you know!!!!"
Playing games. Head in the clouds and up their azzes. Never truthfully addressing what's affecting how we see ourselves, but more importantly, how we
are seen, in turn.
Do you want to talk about the rash of killings by police officers on Black men? Or those perpetrated by Black men themselves?
It even goes back to Oprah taking her money and giving it to African children in Africa. We are missing some key ingredients, people. Honesty just
happens to one.
Seriously, if you were dying, would you want your doctor to tell you that you're healthy as a horse? I sure as hell wouldn't.
First....Michael Steele. A f*cking Republican. Well, Morris O’Kelly when you can find me 30 blacks in the inner city who even know who this
Kracka is, I'll be the first to say you have a valid argument. Find me thirty who actually admire this man, I'll say you have a DAMN valid argument.
But, we all....scratch that....I KNOW, you don't have a valid argument, much less a valid reason for even mentioning his name.
Second....Mike Tomlin.....sorry dude.....who really cares about the guy AFTER football season....on a national level at that? Who really cared about
homeboy, on a national level again, until his team made it to the Super Bowl? I sure as hell didn't! And there are millions who join me.
Am I the only one reading this bullsh*t?
Sorry dude. Black people have a problem with other Black people not being Black enough. Black people love to act like calling other Black people
"white such-and-such" is akin to having the mark of Satan upon them. That one thing right there carries so much force and weight with Black
people......the sh*t's bananas.
We as African-Americans must do more to CORRECTLY highlight and celebrate these types of accomplishments as well as their humanity in our community.
(Sigh) Look dude....I have learned that sometimes you have to allow for a little stupidity. It's the mark we learn from, it's the bench of
experience on the road to maturity and wisdom.
But, dammit, some people like stupidity. They don't like to be told or shown differently. They are more than comfortable running in circles with a
pack of hyenas who tell them they're great. It's all about acceptance. The height of all social interactions.
"When in Rome."
Bullsh*t. It's going to take a lot more than three men to change the face and course of Africans Americans here and across the globe. Just because
they are out in the forefront, doesn't mean it is from them change should spring forth. If it is not within you, you will not get it by osmosis from
Wasn't all of this going down in the hood long before it was put on wax? Again, did reality create the art, or did the art create reality?
Let's not pretend any longer.
Shame on YOU for writing this sh*t!!!!
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| posted on 2.7.2009 at 12:48 PM
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I've read the comments, but for the life of me I don't see how music itself, chiefly hip hop, is to blame. Morris O'Kelly brought up rap
I look at the prominence these people have, and the means in which they use to *discuss* personal problems with other people. But, fact of the matter
is, if you put people in a place long enough, problems are bound to occur. I don't care who you are.
They further the drama by putting it to music, releasing it to the hands of thousands more in day, while ordinary folks send emails reaching 1-5 a
day, and then only when necessary. All of it's word of mouth. None of it has to be true. But, it's still damage done no matter how you look at it.
And it's been going on since darn near forever.
So when people pit the blame on music, I have to ask are they unwilling to face reality? Of course we the standard issue children's clause in
virtually argument and how it affects them, but I clearly remember some years ago about a man who shot a state trooper and tried to pass the blame on
Tupac's music for why he did what he did.
I'm sorry, but if you have children listening to grown folks music, it's nobody's fault but the people who bought it and made it a part of the
child's daily diet. A child brings a gun to school and shoots somebody, again, the blame lies with the person who brought it in the house, and then
And that's what we seem to be dealing with in the Black community. And on that I do agree with Morris O'Kelly. I just don't agree with how
he's chosen to address it. Something happens to Jay Z, Beyonce and future brood won't be heading back to Marcy Projects. 50 Cent's son will be well
taken care of. Same with Michael Steele and Coach Tomlin's families. So for all any immaturity surrounding their demise, they will still be a hero at
the end of the day.
These are people who can afford to get caught up. We keep bringing them up because it's easier to do so. The information is at our fingertips.
There's no passion behind the plea. Morris O'Kelly should've taken the stories of ordinary Joes and tried to make them heroes....examples
Instead he's fallen into the same trap of so many other African Americans lamenting that since Obama is in the White House, "Now, I can
And we all know they won't because they don't want it for selfish reasons. If it was right, it would've been in place a long time before Obama and
his big ears captivated America on the platform of change.
Going to one of my favorite restaurants, up on the walls are old copies of Ebony magazine. And do you know the same issues brought up 30 years ago, we
are still TALKING about? Is it a safe bet to say that we'll still be talking about them another 30 years from now? Is it because we're not fully and
truthfully addressing these issues, and always waiting on somebody else to miraculously make the change for us?
Which leads me to these two topics:
Correct me if I'm wrong. But doesn't it seem like Black women can project loud, ghetto mannerisms, and have people think of them as "cute" or
"that's my girl," everybody sitting up relating to them and whatnot. Nobody addressing how bad they make Black women look. But the minute they show
up scantily dressed, mouths closed, posing gracefully and looking beautiful, "objectified" by men no less, they're cast out, thrown to the wolves
and demonized, said to suffer from low self esteem and a host of other problems nobody can relate to.
What's going on people?
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