Subject: Overlooking The Faults of One's Brothers (Sisters)
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Overlooking The Faults of One's Brothers (Sisters)
“Show forgiveness, enjoin what is good, and turn away from the foolish [i.e. don’t punish them]. Surah Al-A’raf – Ayah 199.
It is not right for you to forsake your brother because of one or two faults that you find in him, especially if the rest of his character is
honourable. As we know, perfection for any one of us is unattainable. Al-Kindi said:
“How is it that you want your friend to possess a specific pattern of characteristics when your soul which is the closest of souls to you does not
always obey your commands. What right do you then have to expect another person’s soul to follow your orders.”
“Even as he is now, so were you yourselves before till Allah conferred on you His Favours [i.e. guided you to Islam]... Surah An-Nisa - Ayah 94.
“So ascribe not purity to yourselves. He knows best him who fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him.” Surah An-Najm – Ayah 32.
It is enough for you that you are satisfied with the main part of your brother’s character. Abu Darda (may Allah be pleased with him) said: “To
reproach your brother for something is better than to lose him altogether.”
Some of the wise said: “We are still not satisfied with ourselves, so how then can we expect ourselves to be satisfied with others.”
It has also been said: “Don’t remain aloof from someone who impresses you with a good character and sound judgment because of some minor fault that is
surrounded by an ocean of virtues. You will not find, as long as you live, a person so cultivated that he is free from blemish and sin. Contemplate
your own self and how often it errs and strays. This kind of introspection makes your demand on others more balanced and makes you more sympathetic to