| posted on 9.23.2006 at 04:52 AM
The Manners of Companionship
Shaykh Badrud-Deen al-Ghazzee (d.984H) 
The Shaykh rahimahullaah said, 
Know O pious brother may Allaah make our affairs good that the manners of companionship and good relationships are of various types, of which I will
explain, such as will show the person of intellect the manners of the Believers and the Pious; and come to know that Allaah the Most Perfect, the Most
High has made them a mercy and helpers towards each other, which is why the Messenger of Allaah (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said, The example of
the Believers, in their mutual love and mercy is like the example of a body, if one part feels pain, then all of the body suffers in sleeplessness and
fever.  And he (alayhis-salaam) said, The Believer to the Believer is like a solid building, one part supporting the other.  The Prophet(alayhis-salaam) also said, The souls are arrayed armies, so those who knew each one another before, will be friendly  So if Allaah intends good
for His servants, He grants them companionship of the people of the Sunnah, righteousness and adherence to the Religion.; and keeps him free from the
companionship of the people of innovations. The Prophet (alayhis-salaam) said, A person is upon the religion of his friend, so let every one of you
look to whom he keeps as a friend. 
About a person, do not ask, but ask about his companion;
Since every companion follows his friends.
From the manners of companionship:
Good manners with the brothers, peers and companions, following the Messenger of Allaah (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) as he said, when it was said to
him, What is the best of what a person is given? So he replied, Good manners. 
MAKING ONES OPINION GOOD:
From the manners of companionship is behaving well regarding the faults that he sees of his companions, since Ibn Maazin said, The Believer seeks
excuses for his brothers, whilst the hypocrite seeks out their faults. And Hamdoon al-Qassaar said, If one of your brothers commits an error, then
seek ninety excuses for him, and if not, then you are the blameworthy one.
COMPANIONSHIP WITH THE BELIEVERS:
To keep companionship with one whose Religion you trust and who is trustworthy, both inwardly and outwardly. Allaah the Most High says,
You will not find anyone who believes in Allaah and the Last Day, making friendship with those who oppose Allaah and His Messenger, even though they
were their fathers, sons, brothers or their relatives. For such He has written eemaan (faith) in their hearts, and strengthened them with a spirit
(proofs, light and guidance) from Himself. And We will admit them into gardens underneath which rivers flow, to dwell therein forever. Allaah is
pleased with them, and they are pleased with Him. They are the Party of Allaah, indeed it is the Party of Allaah that will be successful.
FORMS OF COMPANIONSHIP:
For the Shaykhs and elders: with respect to service and to carry out their needs. For those of the same peer group and those of the middle rank: with
sincere advice, giving what you have and being prepared to carry out their wishes. For the students and younger ones: by guidance, teaching of
manners, carrying out what knowledge demands, guidance to the manners of the Sunnah, rulings concerning the matters of the heart, and to guide them to
develop good manners.
From the manners of companionship is overlooking mistakes of the brothers and not reprimanding them. So al-Fudayl Ibn Iyaad (d.187H) said, Chivalry is
to overlook the mistakes of the brothers. Ibnul-Araabee (d.231H) said, Forgetting the harms caused by the brothers, causes you love of them to
persist. So it is binding upon the Believer, that he avoids seekers of this world, since they will bring him down to the level of seeking it, and this
will distance him from his salvation and it will distance him from remaining alert and being aware of it. Rather, he must strive hard in attaining the
companionship of the good and the seekers of the Hereafter. Therefore, Dhun-Noon (d.245H) said to the one whom he advised, Accompany the one whom you
will be safe from outwardly, and whom when you see him it helps you in doing good and reminds you of your Lord.
AGREEMENT WITH THE BROTHERS:
And from them is: not to differ much with the brothers, but continue agreeing with the brothers in those things allowed by knowledge and the Shareeah.
Aboo Uthmaan said, Agreeing with the brothers is better than showing compassion for them.
LEAVING OF ENVY:
That he does not envy the signs of Allaahs bounty upon them. Rather, he should be happy for that and praise Allaah for it, just as he would praise
Allaah if it were seen upon him. Allaah the Most High censures the envious one,
Or do they envy men for what Allaah has given them from His bounty. [Sooratun-Nisaa 4:94]
The Prophet (sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam) said, Do not envy one another. 
TO KEEP A FEELING OF MODESTY:
That he has hayaa (modesty and shame) at all times, as he alayhis-salaam said, Faith (eemaan) has sixty or seventy odd branches, the most excellent of
them is witnessing that none has the right to be worshipped besides Allaah, and the lowest branch is removing something harmful from the road, and
hayaa is from eemaan.  He alayhis-salaam also said, Hayaa is from eemaan, and eemaan is from Paradise. Speaking obscenely is from coarseness andcoarseness is from the Fire. 
COMPANIONSHIP OF THE DIGNIFIED:
To accompany the one who he has a feeling of respect for, so that this prevents from acting contrary to the Shareeah. Alee (radiyallaahu anhu) said,
Enliven your feeling of hayaa (shame), by sitting before those whom you feel shame. Ahmad Ibn Hanbal (d.241H) rahimahullaah said, I have not been led
into calamity except by accompanying those before whom I do not feel shame.
To have cheerfulness of the face, kindness of the tongue, largeness of the heart, outspreading the hands, withholding anger, leaving off pride,
keeping peoples honour in mind and showing happiness at their companionship and brotherhood.
COMPANIONSHIP OF THE WISE SCHOLAR:
From good companionship is that he does not accompany except a Scholar, of a person who is mild, intelligent and has knowledge. Dhun-Noon
rahimahullaah said, Allaah has not disrobed any one of His servants or a robe better than intellect, and has not adorned him with a necklace better
than knowledge, nor adorned him with anything better than mildness. And the completeness of that is taqwaa (fear of Allaah).
GIVING SINCERE ADVICE:
Having a clean heart with regards to the brothers and advising them, as Allaah the Most High said,
Except he who comes to Allaah with a clean heart. [Sooratush-Shuaraa 26:89]
Saree as-Saqatee (d.257H) rahimahullaah said, One of the best manners of righteousness is having a good heart as regards the brothers and to give them
NOT BREAKING PROMISES:
Since this is from hypocrisy, and he alayhis-salaatu was-salaam said, The signs of the hypocrite are three: When he speaks he lies, when he makes a
promise he breaks it and when he is entrusted he acts deceptively.  Sufyaan ath-Thawree (d.164H) rahimahullaah said, Do not make a promise to your
brother and then break it, so that love turns to hate.
 He is the muftee and faqeeh, Abul-Barakaat Badrud-Deen al-Ghazzee. For his biography, refer to Shadharaatudh-Dhahab (8/403-406) of Ibnul-Imaad and
al-Alaam (7/59) of az-Ziriklee.
 From Aadaabul-Ishrah wa Dhikrus-Suhbah wal-Ukhuwwah (p. 9-20) with the checking and authentication of hadeeth based upon that of Shaykh Alee Hasan
al-Halabee and also Shaykh Mashhoor Hasan Salmaan.
 Related by al-Bukhaaree (no. 6011) and Muslim (no. 2586), from an-Numaan Ibn Basheer (radiyallaahu anhu).
 Related by al-Bukhaaree (no. 481) and Muslim (no. 2585), from Aboo Moosaa al-Asharee (radiyallaahu anhu).
 Saheeh: Related by al-Bukhaaree (6/369) with taleeq (suspension), from Aaishah (radiyallaahu anhaa). It was connected by Aboo Yalaa in al-Musnad
(no. 4381) with an isnaad whose narrators are from as-Saheeh as occurs in al-Majma (8/88) of al-Haythamee.
 Hasan: Related by Ahmad (2/303), Aboo Daawood (no. 4812) and at-Tirmidhee (no. 2484), from Aboo Hurayrah (radiyallaahu anhu). It was authenticated
by Imaam an-Nawawee in Riyaadus-Saaliheen (no. 174).
 Saheeh: Related by Wakee in az-Zuhd (no. 423), Ibn Hibbaan (1/427) and at-Tabaraanee in al-Kabeer (1/147), from Usaamah Ibn Shareek (radiyallaahu
anhu). It was authenticated by al-Haafidh al-Iraaqee in Takhreejul-Ihyaa (2/157).
 Related by al-Bukhaaree (10/484) and Muslim (no. 2564), from Aboo Hurayrah (radiyallaahu anhu).
 Related by al-Bukhaaree (1/44) and Muslim (1/46)
 Saheeh: Related by Ahmad (2/501) and at-Tirmidhee (no. 2077) with a saheeh isnaad, from Aboo Hurayrah (radiyallaahu anhu).
 Related by al-Bukhaaree (5/289) and Muslim (1/76)